How To Have Sex Talk With Your Kids?
As your child grows from a small kid under your protection to an adolescent that is getting harder to control, it is crucial to educate them about sex, preventing unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases ( STDs).
In today’s world where technology is advanced, societies are more ‘open’ in a sense that people are more free spirited and open minded, especially in Asia where the Western influence is getting stronger each time. Parents have to set aside time to talk to their children about the ‘boy-girl’ relationship, warn them to be careful to prevent unwanted situations such as sudden pregnancy, from happening.
It can get uncomfortable talking to your children about these sensitive topics, but it is nonetheless important that your children have some knowledge. Here are a few tips on how to speak to your children about this topic and ensure they understand the seriousness of it.
Keep the mood light.
Try injecting humour when talking. Admit to your child that you are also uneasy on having this conversation but you have to, in order to protect him/ her from unwanted situations.
Ensure you know the facts.
Read up enough to convey the different types of STDs along with their dangers, consequences of getting the diseases and how one can be infected with the diseases.
Avoid being critical or judgmental.
If your child admits to you of any sexual encounter, never judge. Speak to him/her slowly and ask for details. Then advise him/her accordingly on the seriousness of the matter.
Address the emotional aspects of sex.
Emphasize that a good relationship does not require sex. Caution your teen that having sex will not improve a relationship or fix a broken one.
Talk about responsibility.
Remind your child that if he/she is mature enough to have sex, he/she should be mature enough to protect themselves and their partners.
Encourage your teen to ask questions.
To ensure your teen understands, always ask them if anything is unclear to them. Encourage them to freely question you anything on this topic.
Discuss the consequences
Making bad decisions now will have a huge ripple effect on the rest of your teen’s life. Give concrete examples of how unwanted pregnancy or contracting STDs can affect their lives.
End your conversation on a high note, reminding them of their dreams that they want to achieve and assure them that having sex at their age is not beneficial at all.
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November 24th, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Why not we leave the job to the professionals. School should setup a sex education department to teach kids about sex.
November 24th, 2008 at 9:49 pm
I do feel that such duty should comes from both the school and parents. It will have negative effect if kids learn from their friends..
November 24th, 2008 at 9:53 pm
Right now in some school, they are already doing so =) Well in my opinion, sex education should start from home. At least as parent they can set the facts and details right before the child is being exposed to outside world.
These days, kids can get informations from anywhere on the net and they are not in a position to determine right or wrong. Hence parents play an important part in making sure thing goes right in the first place.