The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy.

The above statement was said by H.H. the Dalai Lama. Recently i just watched the movie ‘Handsome Suit’ This “Handsome Suit” revolves around the unattractive Takuro (Muga Tsukaji) who is the chef and owner of a restaurant. He confesses his love to a beautiful part-time worker but she turns him down and quits. However, Takuro later finds a magical suit that transforms him into a good-looking model that turns his life into a perfect world. At the end of the day, he still chose his old-self because he knows that that is what he really enjoys and be happy!

Through this show, i learnt a few things about happiness. First, learn how to count all the small blessings in your life. Be it having a free meal, a help from a colleague, being able to be healthy etc. If you know how to appreciate such small things in life, i am very sure that your life will be wonderful! Is it good to know that you are still able to walk as per normal and have the ability to do what you desire compared to those unfortunated? Don’t take it for granted and always make the full use of your ability to make a difference.

Second thing i learnt was to look beyond a person apperance! In my line, people always said that looks are the most important thing. Without it, you can’t sell! Personally i am not very good looking but i still have lots of clients looking for me. The reasons varies but some told me that it was because i take efforts in building relationship with them and i cared for them. I beg to differ from myth that ugly people don’t have friends! How many of us have very good friends that are not good looking? (honestly ask yourselves) In fact, some of my very good friends are not good looking at all but they made wonderful friends. They really cared about me and be there for me. In life, we build relationship and this is an area where it takes lots of skill and ‘talent’.  Treasure these relationships because they are special. It is only available to you! Some people also told me that beautiful people don’t make good friends because they are just too fake! I do have to admit to some extent (they made ‘useful’ friends only)

Last thing that i got from the show was that happiness is how you view your life. Do you feel happiness when you have lots of money  but alone or do you feel it when you have your loved one beside you supporting and enjoying all the moments with you but normal life? Last time i also keep asking myself whether am i happy? Seriously i have been searching for that answer even till today! Some times my answer is different at different stages of my life. There were times where i was happy when i can buy branded clothes, when i have enough money to substain my lifestyles, when i have a girlfriend etc. But i realised that after each time i achieved all these things in my life, i am still not very happy. Not to say that i am depressed but just not feeling happy. Then i came to realise that it was my expectations that caused me this way. I expect myself alot in term of work and relationship, wanting to achieve extreme good results and perfect relationship with my loved one. Guess it is typical of Librian to balance things in life but i guess by doing so, it can bring me alot more unhappiness.

I always feel that being contended and ambitious is just ONE FINE LINE away. Too much of ambitious makes you unhappy while being too contended makes you lazy! Hence through this show, it reminds me that i MUST change the way i view my life. I got to slow down and appreciated my achievements and be happy with myself. Only this way, i can learn how to be happy =)

So what is the ultimate success to happiness? The answer is inside the mirror =)