Have you been having a rocky marriage lately, where every little exchange of words you have with your spouse always end up in fights? You reach a point where you do not know what to do and feel like giving up on the relationship totally? Do you still want the marriage to work and save your family?

 Here are some simple tips you can follow. Try these first before deciding on anything else.

1.       Treat the marriage as a sacred relationship – the famous Bible quote in Matthew 19:6 says “What God has yoked together let no man put apart”. Take your marriage as not only an agreement between you and your partner, but also both of you with God.

2.       Always speak respectfully –respect is the most crucial thing in marriage. It is the ultimate thing one should give to his/her partner. In all aspects of your everyday life, always treat your spouse with respect then you can gain his/hers.

3.       Develop kindness and compassion in the marriage – especially when couples are in a heated argument, they tend to forget all the love and passion they have or each other and will start blurting out hurtful comments. Always try to show your kindness and compassion for each other even in arguments, never be blinded by your spontaneous anger and do or say things you will regret afterwards.

4.       Show humility whenever possible – Try not to blame your partners for any problems, instead solve them together, find a way out to tackle them and make things better for both of you. It is important to praise your partner’s good efforts. When anything goes wrong, talk it out nicely and always consider your partner’s feelings first before you say anything too harsh.

5.       Never take offense too fast – When in an argument, do not straight away disregard your partner’s opinions or dive into defense if your partner questions you about your words. Listen to your partner first and observe their expression. Have a clear mind to think before you say anything. Couples tend to regret winning an argument through hurtful accusations.

Try these methods out and observe that it takes a little bit more of effort to make your marriage work. Your marriage is worth saving, do not make decisions you will regret later on.